Your Guide to Healthy Communication this Thanksgiving

Use “I” Statements to Express Feelings

When discussing a sensitive topic, focus on expressing your feelings without blaming others. "I" statements allow you to take responsibility for your emotions, reducing defensiveness from others.

Example:

"I feel overwhelmed when the conversation turns to politics, and it makes it harder for me to enjoy our time together."

This way, you're expressing your own experience rather than placing blame on anyone, fostering a more open and understanding dialogue.

Avoid Blame and Focus on Solutions

Instead of pointing fingers or focusing on what went wrong, direct the conversation toward solutions. This creates an atmosphere of collaboration, making it easier for others to engage constructively.

Example:

"Instead of focusing on past misunderstandings, let’s talk about how we can make future holidays more relaxed for everyone."

Focusing on solutions rather than blame keeps the conversation positive and forward-thinking.

Take Breaks from Heated Conversations

If a conversation starts to escalate, it’s okay to step away for a moment to collect your thoughts. Giving yourself a timeout can help avoid saying something you’ll regret and help you return to the conversation with a clearer mind.

Example:

"This is getting a little too heated for me. I’m going to take a break and come back to this later."

Taking breaks allows you to regulate your emotions and return to the conversation in a calm, respectful way.

Practice Active Listening

Good communication isn’t just about talking—it’s also about listening. Show interest in others’ points of view by listening attentively, asking follow-up questions, and acknowledging their feelings.

Example:

"I hear that you're frustrated with how things went last year, and I can see why that would be upsetting. Let’s figure out how we can do things differently this time."

Active listening helps create mutual respect and understanding, leading to healthier interactions.

Stay Calm and Respectful

No matter how difficult a conversation becomes, maintaining your composure can de-escalate a tense situation. When you remain calm and respectful, it encourages others to do the same.

Example:

"I understand that this is important to you, and I want to be respectful of your feelings, but I need to set a boundary around this conversation."

Remaining calm allows you to maintain control of the situation while modeling healthy communication for others.

Healthy communication is key to reducing misunderstandings and promoting connection, especially during the holidays.

Therapy can help you strengthen these skills so you can navigate tough conversations with confidence.

Contact us today to learn more about how therapy can support your communication skills and emotional well-being!