6 Ways to set Healthy Boundaries with Family this Thanksgiving
Communicate Your Needs in Advance
Before Thanksgiving arrives, let your family know what you need to feel comfortable. Whether it’s asking for help with hosting duties, opting out of certain activities, or setting expectations about topics to avoid, clear communication can prevent misunderstandings.
Example: "I’m so excited to see everyone, but I’ll need to leave by 8 PM to recharge."
Take Breaks When You Need Them
Thanksgiving gatherings can be full of noise, opinions, and emotions. If you feel overwhelmed, give yourself permission to step away. Go for a short walk, take a moment in a quiet room, or practice deep breathing to reset.
Reminder: It’s okay to prioritize your mental health over social expectations!
Say No Without Guilt
It’s tempting to say yes to every request during the holidays, but overcommitting can lead to stress and resentment. Politely decline tasks or conversations that don’t feel right for you. Setting boundaries isn’t selfish—it’s an act of self-care that benefits everyone.
Example: "I’d love to help, but I’m feeling a bit overwhelmed with everything else going on. I’ll be happy to contribute in other ways, like setting the table or sharing a fun story after dinner!"
Set Time Limits for Visits
Spending too much time in one environment can lead to burnout, especially if family dynamics are tense. Setting a clear timeframe for your visit can help manage expectations while ensuring you don’t overexert yourself.
Example: "I’ll be able to join for the first couple of hours, but I’ll need to head out by mid-afternoon."
Manage Expectations Around Perfection
Family gatherings don’t have to be perfect, and it’s okay to let go of the pressure to please everyone. Setting the expectation that you’ll embrace the imperfections of the day can help reduce stress and free you from unnecessary pressure.
Example: "Let’s focus on enjoying each other’s company instead of stressing about the perfect meal or decor."
Set Boundaries for Personal Space
If you’re feeling crowded or overwhelmed, it’s important to have a designated space where you can retreat and recharge. Whether it’s a quiet room, your car, or a spot outdoors, having a personal space gives you the time you
need to reset.
Example: "I’m really enjoying spending time with everyone, but I’m going to step outside for some fresh air and quiet for a few minutes. I’ll be back soon!"
Setting boundaries is a form of self-respect, and it helps you navigate family dynamics with peace of mind.
If you need support setting and maintaining healthy boundaries during the holidays, our virtual therapy practice is here to guide you. Let’s work together to build the tools you need for a stress-free Thanksgiving!
